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Carl Rufelds

In Memory of
Carl
Rufelds
2018
Memorial Candle Tribute From
McAdam's Funeral Home
"We are pleased to provide this Book of Memories to the family."
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Tips on Writing a Message of Condolence

You may not know exactly what you want to say in your Book of Memories™ condolence message. In fact, this may be the first time you've ever been faced with sharing your feelings or offering comforting words to someone who is grieving a loss. Whether it's the first time, or the fifth, we're here to offer some assistance. We've compiled some tips, and brought together a list of expressive words you can use in your condolences.

Tip #1: Be sincere. It's important to mean what you say, on the deepest emotional level. Yes, we know, "saying what you mean" can be harder - that's why we're here.

Tip #2: Keep it simple. You don't need to say much more than "I'm sorry for you loss," yet it's always wonderful to share a personal memory of their loved one, if you have one.

Tip #3: Don't tell them you know how they feel. Because you can't really know; even if you've endured the loss of a loved one in the past - your grief was yours, and this is theirs.

Tip #4: Share how you felt when you heard the news. Perhaps you were shocked, disbelieving, or deeply saddened. Let them know how the passing affected you personally.

Tip #5: Share Remind them that you will always hold the memory of their loved one close to you. It will be a comfort to them to know that their loved one will be remembered.

A Short List of Appropriate Phrases:

  • Our thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time.
  • Please accept my condolences on the loss of your partner.
  • With deepest sympathy for your loss.
  • Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
  • Please know our loving thoughts embrace you each and every day.
  • Thinking of you in these difficult times and sending you love.
  • With heartfelt condolences.
  • Wishing you comfort at this sorrowful time.
  • Sharing in your sorrow, thinking of you and wishing I could be there
  • to hold your hand.
  • May the love of those around you, help you through the days ahead.
  • Hold tight to memories for comfort.
  • Lean on your friends for strength, and always remember how much you are cared about.
  • As you comprehend this profound loss, let yourself cry knowing each tear is a note of love rising to the heavens.
  • Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
  • Peace, prayers and blessings.
  • Words cannot even begin to express our sorrow.
  • You are in our prayers.
  • May your memories give you strength.
  • Remember that we love and care about you.
  • May the love of those around you help you through the days ahead.

After writing and posting a message of condolence to the family, you may also wish to make a memorial donation as a tribute to their loved one, or send flowers to the family home or memorial service. However you choose to express your concern and pay tribute, please know this: it will be deeply appreciated.

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A place for remembering loved ones. A space for sharing memories.

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Latest Obituaries

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Memorial Notices

Today Yesterday This Week This Month Explore All

Other Sympathy Announcements

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Learn & Prepare

When someone close to you passes away, it can be difficult to know what to do. Whether you are planning a funeral service, buying flowers, expressing condolences, or just trying to figure out how to process grief, this library of articles will help you understand what to expect.

Explore All
guiding grief photo

Your Guide to Overcoming Grief

  • Comprehensive Videos for Every Grief Journey
  • 15 Experts Share Insights to Manage Grief
  • On-Demand Access
guiding grief logo
Learn more
Photo

Obituary Writing Toolbox: Template and Samples

Following a template is the easiest way to determine the requirements and standards for any type of writing project. It's helpful to take a look at examples, templates and guides when beginning to write. Knowing the form,...

Learn more
Photo

Benefits of Online Memorials

When a loved one passes away, the next of kin will usually compose a newspaper obituary to communicate the information. While these notices are informative, obituaries often don’t do justice to the life story of a loved one....

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